There are three ultimate truths that you need to understand when it comes to mom guilt...
The first is that in order to be afflicted with mom guilt you must already be a good mom. It's a lot like testicular cancer, you can't get it if you don't have testicles. Bad moms don't suffer from mom guilt. So, rest assured, as you are questioning your choices, losing sleep, and comparing yourself to all of those Pinterest moms out there (no offense meant because I am one of those Pinterest moms) you are already a good mom.
The second is that you are the right mom for your kids. Seriously let go of some of the guilt and know that no one is more suited for your kids than you, no one can do it better for them than you. Even when you feel like the worst mom in the world, you yelled, you screamed, you let them eat 4 string cheese sticks and a pack of M&Ms for dinner; you are their very best mom for them. I promise.
The last truth of mom guilt is that how you thought it would be and how it actually is will never match up; that doesn't mean that it can't be amazing. Let go of the way you thought it would be and open your eyes to how amazing it is. The truth is that what you always pictured could never compare to what is right in front of you happening every day. In my wildest dreams of parenting I imagined camping trips, and family movie nights, muffin making, and Boy Scouts. What did I have tonight after the screaming toddler dust settled? A 2 1/2 year old who can sing every word of Twinkle Twinkle Little Star and is handing me a stack of at least ten stories saying "read these to my couch mommy." I know what he means is read them to me on the couch, and I also know that I never could have imagined this moment no matter how hard I tried.
Smiles in between stories |
4 comments:
Love this. It's all SO true too!
Whoa! I clicked on a Twitter link a minute ago and now I have a lump in my throat and eyes filled w/tears. Someone.gets.me. I do it all every day and if stuff spills over to next day. I'm okay with that. One OLW is Breathe for 2013! Wow. Thx for this post! Happy Weds.
Gah you should be a inspirational life coach! This is some hood stuff.
Gah you should be a inspirational life coach! This is some hood stuff.
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